The Color Code
Red = Power White = Peace
Blue = Intimacy Yellow = Fun
Reds:
Motives are Power, Productivity/Logic, resist things that don't interest them, want to look good to others (knowledge, respect). They don't say "in my opinion" or "I think" and they seem antagonistic to others. They can be control freaks--like to lead.
Blues:
Motives are Doing Good, Altruism, Selflessness. They crave intimacy and nurturing. They are loyal and perfectionists/obsessive. They want to be listened to and will reveal inadequacies openly so they can be known and understood. They are okay being vulnerable. They have a strong moral conscience/integrity. CONS: nurturing can be mistaken for distrust (ie. spying on employees), they are extremely self-disciplined and always seek purpose in life. They give more, but forgive least, carry resentment and have strings attached. They are filled with worry, anxiety, self doubt, and are guilt-ridden. They care a lot about manners/propriety and don't like wasted time (will multitask!). They envy or resent others who don't work as hard and can get in a moody and emotional rut. They are can be pious or self-righteous and insecure.
Whites:
Keep the peace and want to feel good (vs. being good). They are kind, keep a low profile, just want to be left alone (vs. control others). They are passive--you have to ask for their opinions. They are independent, will do things in their own way on their own time. They may grow resentful or "blow up" if forced otherwise. They are open to other people's suggestions.
Yellow:
Value play, need praises/to be valued. They like physical intimacy, are popular, and are driven by action/adventure.
How to Improve:
1) Identify Universal Truths
2) Free Will
3) Other Human Influences
"Character is developed over years by personal design and commitment to life principles."
Binding Behaviors (limit character development)
Reds:
inflexible, overbearing unkind/sarcasm judgmental
unappreciative of others always right too task-oriented
Blues:
overly sensitive/take things personally unrealistic expectations
put themselves last judge others manners critical of lie choices
White:
easily overwhelmed by life afraid to be honest too independent
too weak to take a stand silently stubborn insecure
won't set goals helpless/inadequate passive-aggressive
Yellows:
flighty flippant/rude irresponsible
don't focus refuse leadership emotionally dishonest
Character Code:
Becoming Charactered = getting rid of the faults of your character colors and adopting the strengths of others.
To become charactered:
1) Value Yourself--Fill your time with activities that make you happy.
Avoid excuses...(Red/blue: productivity=value, worth=success, unrealistic expectations, work is more important than play)
Service by someone who values themselves has no strings--it's acceptance instead of expectations.
2)Seek Universal Truth
Commit to timeless concepts: Humility, Base your heart on what is important, Boundaries, Accept everyone's free agency (Let go), What goes around comes around, Affirmations bring results (work towards goals), Stretch to give gifts
3)Clean Motives
Why do I think, feel, or behave as I do?
4)Focus Your Commitments
Set goals and aim high
5) Discover Balance
Follow positive risk patterns
6) Serve Others
"To have no burden is the greatest burden in life."